Don’t end up like Debra Newell from DIRTY JOHN

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 Don’t end up like Debra Newell from DIRTY JOHN

Don’t end up like Debra Newell from DIRTY JOHN



Protection of yourself when in the dating scene is crucial, whether you’re a woman or man. It’s important to safeguard your emotions, family relationships and assets before getting involved with someone else.

We advise of the following tips to make sure that your date is in it for the right reasons:

1. Do not follow a profile’s immediate request to chat outside the dating site’s messenger capabilities – they may be trying to lead you to another site for a scam subscription.

2. Don’t get sucked into an immediate statement that your meeting is “fate” or “destiny” these are signs that the person is either very insecure, is after something other than romance ($$) or is a scam.

3.In Dirty John, Debra Newell and John Meehan’s relationship progressed too rapidly, that within several weeks they were married. The dating progress is a series of interviews. Ifv there is not enough interviews conducted to get to know your prospective spouse, you may end up with a golddigger and stalker like John Meehan.

4. Try not to disclose where you live or work in detail until you have met this person a few times in person and feel comfortable. Debra Newell revealed this information before she even met John Meehan! Giving this information out to early, especially to an obsessive personality type is dangerous.

5. Also, try not to reveal the type of assets you own straight away, such as telling your date that “I own my own home” or the“ owner of X Company”. This is another mistake Debra Newell made. Its important to rather give answers such as “I work in Marketing”. It’s not lying. This answer protects you as it doesn’t disclose your earning capacity too early on. This helps sift out golddiggers. As Golddiggers will continue to prod into what you do for a living, and whether you like to do “things” that involve spending money.

6. If you’re a woman, do not give out your home or work address under the guise that they are sending you flowers or gifts early on – especially if you don’t know where he lives or works. This gives makes you vulnerable or gives them control early on.

7. If you attend a restaurant and make a booking or sign into a RSL Club, make sure the restaurant doesn’t disclose your surname upon arrival if its a first date, or make sure you take the sign up slip after signing into the RSL Club.

Do not attend an RSL Club that you’re not a member of, as some RSLs require you to Sign In or Up in a ledger that’s kept at the front desk – your date can read the same ledger and have access to your name, date of birth, mobile number and address.

Be careful of this! This happened to the Owner of Dishonest Dates.

8. Stay away from an individual that constantly blames others for troubles in his or her life. His/Her divorce, having no money, having poor health. Because, soon enough they will blame you for not giving them “X, Y and Z” and you will be guilted into providing this person with what they are really after.

9. Be careful if this person has been recently widowed or claims his wife or her husband won’t let them see their children – the sympathy card is often played in catfishing scandals.

These are just some of the red flags to watch out for and tips to use. Be smart. Be safe.

It’s important to know who you are getting involved with.

If you are not sure who you are dating – let us protect your love life!

Contact Dishonest Date today.