What would make a partner cheat in a relationship?

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What would make a partner cheat in a relationship?

At National Inquiry Agency, we have clients come to our office frustrated and sometimes angry due to the injustice of their partner’s infidelity.

When you seek assistance from National Inquiry Agency, we will discuss various options to assist you with getting to the truth of the matter.

Over the years we have noted that there are quite a number of triggers that can lead to a person cheating in a relationship.

  • There could be an ongoing issue that has tried to be resolved, maybe half-heartedly by the other person, and your frustration takes over. There could be that work colleague or that person at the gym you are attracted to that starts paying you some attention. Who doesn’t like feeling special?
  • A new addition to the family. There can be a lot of stress associated with bringing home a new little bundle of joy. The time you both used to spend sitting on the lounge cuddling and watching your favourite romantic movie is now directed at bonding with your new cherub or trying to sooth them when they are upset.
  • Another issue could be a need for variety in the bedroom. The cheater may feel that their sexual desire has changed or need something to spice it up a little and may seek opportunities to fulfill these urges.

Whatever the reason, always remember the issue is with the person cheating and not you.

The risks in a marriage leading to cheating can vary from communication, respect, financial hardship, compatibility, disconnecting both physically and emotionally and abuse.

Communication in a relationship is vital for it to succeed. Being honest with your partner is not letting yourself be open and vulnerable but you have recognised a problem and communicating this it may lead to a solution. You never know your partner may have had the same thoughts nagging at them and did not know how to approach it with you.

Now we cannot just blame the one sex type for cheating, both men and women have different reasons for cheating.

Men will usually cheat more than women. The reasoning behind this is that a man will think sexually and not be able to provide the correct loving communication with their partners. If a partner keeps denying their male partner sex, they feel unloved and will seek it elsewhere.

As for women, they want to feel loved and appreciated. By having an affair, they are seeking the emotional void within their current relationship. Unfortunately, in a relationship when a woman is a cheater, they seem to find what they have been craving for, and they will look to leave the relationship that is emotionally void. In saying this, women, like men, also crave sexual pleasure.

Individuals may have other reasons for having an affair, and it solely evolves around these factors, such as addictions involving drugs or alcohol. Some individuals who have suffered childhood dramas which include physical, emotional or sexual abuse.

Other factors could also be that as a child, the individual was exposed to their parent having an affair, and as such, the pattern may continue. There are also issues with Mental Health, which may make an individual act out in ways they would not when they are not experiencing bipolar issues. Another personal disorder is Narcissism, where the cheater will think of the cheating as being self-entitlement without any regard for the feelings of their partner.

Sex addiction is another factor that plays a major role in individual people cheating. They are not satisfied and choose to look elsewhere to satisfy their needs.

And one of the ones we have all heard of: once a cheater, always a cheater! These individuals are 3 times more likely to cheat on their partner.

You have your suspicions, late-night phone calls, pin numbers on your partner’s phone have been changed, and the smell of perfume, but how can you act on these “feelings”?

You can confront them directly but be ready for the answer. What is said next will be a lie or the truth. Are you ready to be told the truth emotionally? Have you done your research and found solid evidence?

Before you approach your partner, talk to one of our team members at the National Inquiry Agency. They are experts in surveilling individuals suspected of infidelity. We will advise you if we find anything as well as provide you with evidence in which you can confidently approach your partner.

The start of the dialogue with your partner may be what you need to start working on your relationship again or decide to part ways. Either way, you may both be hurt in these situations, but better than not knowing.

We also recommend seeking advice from your health professional as they will be able to refer you or your partner or both of you to counsellors as well as for appropriate medical assessments.