AFFAIRS and CHEATING happen more regularly than people would like to think…. Here are 5 reasons why it occurs.
1. BOREDOM 😒
We all know about the honeymoon period. Roses are red and the sun is always shining. There can be no fault with the person you are dating or in a relationship with. Then the consistent drum of life’s routine returns and that initial excitement of exploring new things has died down.
There is less excitement than what used to be in the first few months of seeing each other. For some, to gain that excitement back, they opt for an AFFAIR. The rush of trying to not get CAUGHT out for doing something they know is ‘wrong’ is a short lived high that eventually wears off – but it causes everlasting damage to the relationship in the process.
2. TRYING TO GET CAUGHT IN THE ACT 🤨
At the other end of the spectrum, some partners CHEAT and intentionally want to get caught out or admit it outright to their partners as a easy way out of the relationship. It’s a win-win for the CHEATER, because instead of working out problems in their MARRIAGE, ending it because they “cheated” is a quick scapegoat.
3. TIMES OF NEGLECT
When one partner feels they are being neglected or not having certain “needs” met they may look outside the relationship. It starts from having that colleague rather than the wife listen to certain feelings, and soon enough a workplace AFFAIR has started with the legal secretary. Or, sexual intimacy has become less due to work commitments pulling him/her away and there is a craving for physical closeness. Soon enough, people look elsewhere.
4. ACTS OF REVENGE
In toxic relationships there is an 👁EYE for an EYE 👁 MENTALITY. At this point in a long term relationship, two individuals have the cycle of hurting and then blame. Either the CHEATER is taking revenge for the other spouse having cheated already, or they are using extra marital sex to punish their spouse for bad or neglectful behaviour.
5. ABUSE AND MISTREATMENT
It is common that at one time or another in a long term relationship to lose oneself or a sense of who you are. This is especially more common in abusive relationships.
If a spouse is being mistreated and abused, the person may seek independence and a sense of gaining back their power through the act of cheating.